Comments on: Horton Heard a Who, Can You Hear Me? http://www.thestickyfloor.com/2009/08/horton-heard-a-who-can-you-hear-me/ Thoughts on Evolving Equality & Relationships at Home Wed, 25 Jan 2012 16:14:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: DG http://www.thestickyfloor.com/2009/08/horton-heard-a-who-can-you-hear-me/comment-page-1/#comment-506 DG Mon, 17 Aug 2009 03:44:47 +0000 http://www.thestickyfloor.com/?p=53#comment-506 Hear, Hear!! MKK's response is dead-on, too. Thanks for the encouragement to be 'real' and to keep it real! Hear, Hear!! MKK’s response is dead-on, too. Thanks for the encouragement to be ‘real’ and to keep it real!

]]> By: Marie Rodgers http://www.thestickyfloor.com/2009/08/horton-heard-a-who-can-you-hear-me/comment-page-1/#comment-504 Marie Rodgers Mon, 17 Aug 2009 01:08:13 +0000 http://www.thestickyfloor.com/?p=53#comment-504 Re: MKK's response - Hallelujah and Amen to that! You just said what I think and feel deeply. I am determined to never compromise myself - my integrity - in another business relationship again. The older I get the more I know that I'm no better than what I do or say. I can either talk about integrity and honesty or I can live it - and it feels so much better when I live it. Re: MKK’s response – Hallelujah and Amen to that! You just said what I think and feel deeply. I am determined to never compromise myself – my integrity – in another business relationship again. The older I get the more I know that I’m no better than what I do or say. I can either talk about integrity and honesty or I can live it – and it feels so much better when I live it.

]]> By: Scott Abel http://www.thestickyfloor.com/2009/08/horton-heard-a-who-can-you-hear-me/comment-page-1/#comment-503 Scott Abel Sun, 16 Aug 2009 23:07:38 +0000 http://www.thestickyfloor.com/?p=53#comment-503 Great stuff. I hear ya! Great stuff. I hear ya!

]]> By: MKK http://www.thestickyfloor.com/2009/08/horton-heard-a-who-can-you-hear-me/comment-page-1/#comment-501 MKK Sun, 16 Aug 2009 17:14:07 +0000 http://www.thestickyfloor.com/?p=53#comment-501 I think truth is essential in all facets of life. I'm surprised more people don't see the benefits. You get to be just you, with no unreachable expectations, no juggling what you told to whom, and you can strive to be your very best with no limits, guilt or fear. Being honest about your limitations and mistakes engenders respect from people of worth. Being honest about your needs and your aspirations encourages communication and opens possibilities. Dishonesty is manipulation, and there is no growth in a false environment for anyone. When people are dishonest, it's because they want to control the outcome of the situation. It doesn't work well, because there are more factors than an individual can see. When you let go of the outcome and are just you, just true, you let go of the idea that you must control the situation. Why not? People and events aren't ours to control anyway. Sure, you may lose a client or a deal. But when you are honest, the business you build is based on strong relationships of trust...you can afford some losses, and the lessons that come with them. It only helps you grow and get better. The happiest workplaces I've seen have been honest ones. They were truly successful, and endured through tough times. The workplaces full of deceit and unhappiness have struggled or failed. Those experiences affected me deeply. I've been asked to lie, lied, and been lied to, and I won't go there again. It takes too much work, and it doesn't make anyone successful. It may have temporary wins, but the long-term outlook is dismal What have I lost by being honest? Nothing essential to my financial, emotional, or physical well-being. I lost a stressful job with a boss who was desperately unhappy, and have a job I love with a boss I trust. I've lost relationships with a few people who were inflexible or deceitful. Most of my relationships are stronger and better than ever. I've lost most of my guilt, and that frantic feeling of trying to remember what I told someone last time. Instead, I say I'm sorry more often, and offer to look for the answers I don't know. Mostly I've lost that mask I used to wear, and I've found myself again. When I'm true, and I live in such a way as to minimize my regrets, I'm happier, more productive, and my relationships at work and at home are stronger. Who doesn't want that? I think truth is essential in all facets of life. I’m surprised more people don’t see the benefits. You get to be just you, with no unreachable expectations, no juggling what you told to whom, and you can strive to be your very best with no limits, guilt or fear.

Being honest about your limitations and mistakes engenders respect from people of worth. Being honest about your needs and your aspirations encourages communication and opens possibilities. Dishonesty is manipulation, and there is no growth in a false environment for anyone.

When people are dishonest, it’s because they want to control the outcome of the situation. It doesn’t work well, because there are more factors than an individual can see. When you let go of the outcome and are just you, just true, you let go of the idea that you must control the situation. Why not? People and events aren’t ours to control anyway. Sure, you may lose a client or a deal. But when you are honest, the business you build is based on strong relationships of trust…you can afford some losses, and the lessons that come with them. It only helps you grow and get better.

The happiest workplaces I’ve seen have been honest ones. They were truly successful, and endured through tough times. The workplaces full of deceit and unhappiness have struggled or failed. Those experiences affected me deeply. I’ve been asked to lie, lied, and been lied to, and I won’t go there again. It takes too much work, and it doesn’t make anyone successful. It may have temporary wins, but the long-term outlook is dismal

What have I lost by being honest? Nothing essential to my financial, emotional, or physical well-being. I lost a stressful job with a boss who was desperately unhappy, and have a job I love with a boss I trust. I’ve lost relationships with a few people who were inflexible or deceitful. Most of my relationships are stronger and better than ever. I’ve lost most of my guilt, and that frantic feeling of trying to remember what I told someone last time. Instead, I say I’m sorry more often, and offer to look for the answers I don’t know. Mostly I’ve lost that mask I used to wear, and I’ve found myself again.

When I’m true, and I live in such a way as to minimize my regrets, I’m happier, more productive, and my relationships at work and at home are stronger.

Who doesn’t want that?

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